John McCain talks to Ellen

John McCain went on the "Ellen" show. Naturally, the topic of gay marriage came up. Click here for the clip.


First of all, good for John McCain for being willing to go on the Ellen show. At the very least, he grants her a degree of legitimacy just by showing up. I think John McCain is one of those people who really does not have a problem with homosexaulity per se, but he's old-fashioned enough to believe in the "sanctity of marriage." I don't think he's going to change his mind at this point, and, while I hope he does, I think it's unrealistic to believe that he will. But he's enough of a honorable man that he respects someone like Ellen.

But what's interesting for me about this clip is that, while Ellen makes an argument for her own right to love who she wishes, and her desire for recognition of that by society, McCain does not really have an argument in response. He just keeps repeating that they have a disagreement.

That's not an argument; that's a copout. That means that he can't come up with an argument challenging Ellen's desire for dignity besides "I just disagree with you." He's caught on the horns of a dilemma of his own making; he wants to respect Ellen, which is good. She appreciates his respect, which is one reason she asked him to be on the show. So far, so good.

But she wants to take it to the next step; if you really respect me, and you want me to be happy, then you should respect my most fervent desire, which is to allow me to be married, because that would grant me the ultimate stamp of approval by society. Ellen's message is: I appreciate the respect for my personal dignity, but it's not complete without the stamp of approval that marriage implies. So she's telling McCain that he is not as honorable as he could be. She's challenging him on his terms.

Which is why she is able to ask him if he'll walk her down the aisle, and why he laughs and says "Touche." She's won the argument, but lets him off gracefully. Which is the honorable thing for her to do. He is her guest; he has agreed to come on her show, which is a minor act of courage on his part, since he will be criticized for it by his political allies. So she's gotten him about as far as he can go. But she also makes it clear that she knows she's won, but she knows just exactly how far she can go. She makes exactly as much progress as she can in the few minutes that she has. And she also knows that she has her audience backing her up. Politically, it's an extraordinarily adept move.

Which is why she has her own TV show. Good job, Ellen.

McCain on "Ellen"

John McCain is going to be on Ellen DeGeneres' talk show tomorrow, Thursday. My guess is that he's doing a bit to burnish his image as a maverick. Certainly an unconventional move. Maybe he's going after the lesbian Republican vote? My guess is that he already has both of them. Actually, I shouldn't make generalizations about Republican lesbians. I'm sure there are lots of women in the Log Cabin.

Maybe McCain is going after all the women pissed off about Hillary's loss in the Dem primary. The flip side of that gamble is that he is not going to help himself with the right. Can't wait for that reaction!

Regardless, I want to take this moment and commend McCain for going on Ellen's show, particularly when the issue of gay marriage is so prominent, and when Ellen has put herself at the center of it. McCain really does deserve a certain amount of respect for his willingness to do what he thinks is right, regardless of the political implications.

And good for Ellen. I like her - she's very funny. Kudos to her for inviting him. I am going to be looking for some way to watch this.